Dating The Right Way?

Hey, My Beautiful Family!!!

Lately I have been experiencing some interesting things when it comes to "dating" or "getting to know" someone. It's like if guys aren't intimidated to talk to me, they are making assumptions on the kind of woman I am and where my values lay, or they under underestimate my standards maybe because I have a sweet, welcoming face. I don't say that as a bad thing, I just think that if you don't have any teeth in your mouth your approach should be minimal or you should find a way to fill me out before going in for the kill, but that's either here or there!

Though, I don't judge the extent others have been blessed physically. I do judge how you take care of yourself because at some point we got to the point where teeth didn't matter and I have to say that this is a problem sir. I am probably one of the simplest people someone can date. I don't ask for much but for us to truly be best friends and for you to keep your word AT ALL TIMES. If you say you will love me forever, that's exactly what I expect. Though maybe that's a lack on my terms, because in reality I don't even know if that's enough. Maybe me asking for too little opens that door for so many things to come in, "the list" of a relationship is what keeps the relationship in check and as soon as one of those things are jeopardized its fair game to throw the towel in. I don't think like that and maybe my need for openness hinders the strictness guys need.

When did relationships become so complicated?
Before we even get a chance to say "Hello", we are a challenged and flooded with superficial appearances and societal goals. Everyone has an opinion on what we need in a mate and who we look good with, not knowing the daily struggle to simply be sweet to each other. Though, we hold it together for the sake of "the church". God allows us to have free will, so I ask does your free will focus on happiness, growth, and God or your attempt to make God happy? (email me if this confuses you). God doesn't need your approval to be happy nor does He need you to be looking over your shoulder with the hopes of making Him smile knowing you are miserable. Which opens a whole other line of sin that I can talk about in different post.

See me, I am HAPPILY single and ACTIVELY preparing for marriage, there is no rush but I can't help to think does my desire to get married overshadows my desire to be in a Godly relationship. We must understand that even the slightest approval/disapproval from our parents, friends, and even society takes us out of the will of God. Does your relationship glorify God or what your parents want for you? Our we truly taking the time to ask God what we need in a helpmeet? Do we even know our Godly purpose to even be asking for a purpose partner?

Family, stop letting people regulate with God has for you by putting their opinions before God. We must be extremely eager to seek His face and voice over that of others who may love us but didn't create us. We must be fearless when it comes to walking into things that are ordained for us. Today, I pray that we can be honest with ourselves that though they may physically meet the requirements do they match them spiritually. I pray that we are checking our God list twice not only for what they do in the church but what they can do for us personally. Our helpmeets does not sleep with our parents, friends, or family....What are you doing to secure your future?

Today ask God to simply reveal and mediate on what He wants!

Lets us Pray: Father God, we just want to thank you! Thank You for our helpmeets and thank you for allowing us to be helpmeets. Though at times society and the people around us affect the way we view things, thank You for guiding us back to where we need to be. Thank You for loving us enough to send us help even though we make things seem more difficult than they actually are, Thank you for the relationships that have and will end, grow, and even be mended because you see fit and not because it's in our hands. Lord we give all things back to You. Love you more than everything, I pray that a surrender happens so that nothing is affected when it comes to the things that You want form us. Amen.

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Torture To Treasure: God's Way

Beautiful Family back with another one on Today!

I already pre-wrote this and there was an urgency to post so here it is.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father you place this on my heart for some reason allow it to minister to someone in need. Your words and ways are so powerful and I just want them to be a reflection of Your greatness. Let it pierce the hearts and minds of Your people and leave them in awe as You do with me daily. I love You more then anything and always let Your will be done. Amen.

So often we want to give ourselves to Christ but the thought of committing and becoming a “true” Christian is what holds us back.  We can’t physically touch or see this someone that we are encouraged to have a relationship with but, we need it so bad. I will be the first to admit it, SIS, IT AIN’T EASY! Probably the hardest decision you ever make as a woman seeking the Kingdom. We have to make the conscience decision to comprehend on how and where to start. We say we trust God, we believe His words, and love Him but our actions don’t even come close. We expect to have some kind of experience when it comes to being in our Fathers will but are you doing the necessary dying to yourself daily in order to get there?

The bible tells us to keep His commandments and obey Him. Simple instructions, right? Did you grow up like me? Being raised in the world and taught about the “surface” of God but nothing deeper? Were you being dragged to a strict Baptist church every Sunday but didn’t know Jesus? When you got to a certain age did your parents allow you to make the decision of if you want to attend church or not? Did you live in a “spiritual” household with no religious practices?

You did? Girl, ME TOO!

If you were like me and grew up/raised in the world. Becoming committed to God is the hardest thing you can ever do. Though for me, I had formed my own covenant. This is where I ONLY relied on myself and what I had to offer to the world. I wasn’t super selfish and I loved people but it was all surface influenced. I only told people what I wanted them to know, nothing deeper. I had to trust you first like a real test of truth into my world (which still stands kind of…lol).  I was so guarded that my heart was like steel. I didn’t give people the chance to hurt me, so I was mean to you before you could even get to know me. I knew my life was tragic but it was what I was dealt. So, because my life wasn’t perfect and being verbally abused daily is embarrassing to admit, I shut down completely. Honestly, I reflected everything that I grew up in but I didn’t blame anybody. I was used to it, it just became…a thing.

So if anybody knows the “Christian” journey from nothing, I KNOW!!! I was not being taught how to expand into the spirit. There is always a sense of seeking for more. I am constantly wondering am I seeking enough and experiencing the right things. There are always worries of what makes my journey God ordained and who I am to possess so much in His kingdom when I am so tore up. Sis, let me tell you!! I know the hurt, pain, and doubt when it comes to walking the right path.

Are you constantly wondering, what people are thinking of you? ESPECIALLY, when just a few months ago you were turning up on social media with your friends? I understand. As God fearing women, we must remember that Jesus took care of us on the cross. Regardless of what we are going through and the emotional state we are in, picking up our cross and dusting off our crown is work that is never finish. It has to be done DAILY!! It’s a decision to be different, set apart, and not of the norm. It’s a decision to keep God first in all things and we must remember that the fight is continuous.  We can’t let up or become comfortable in our own ways. We can’t trust ourselves and trust that we are doing the work of a Christian without Christ.

The blood of Jesus is what washes us clean and you have to make that commitment daily, that your actions will reflect the significances of His sacrifices. Your eternity is at stake and you want to make sure that paradise is the aim. Sis, aren’t you trying to make it back to Eden? Committing to God only stops you from living your old life, truly committing to God will bring you into new beginnings that will absolutely blow your mind. Trusting God, allows His grace and mercy to work throughout your life. He will not leave you where He found you. You will never have an encounter with God and want to stay in your state of sin and ungodliness, but you have to commit to Him. You have to be faithful to Him and His ways just as He was when He picked you up where you were.  Making the commitment to serve His Kingdom, you will never have to worry about your past ways and the things that tried to break you.

Your salvation is His victory and you have to trust Him through it. Well, you say “Sis, I hear you but how? What can I do? I am completely lost!” I got you sis, I worked through it and I had to simply be alone. I had to let God use me every minute of the day. I had to stay committed by praying ALL THE TIME, literally. When I needed to cry, I did! I got on to my face EVERY SINGLE morning between 6 AM and 7:30 AM to pour my heart out to Him. I stayed up late nights, sometimes didn’t sleep at all, and tried to see His face. I fast for weeks at a time just to get deeper and hear Him. I dedicated everything I did to Him; walks, mediation, relaxation, car drives, and even bath time. There was nothing that I did that didn’t involve me acknowledging Him in it. I ask questions and became accustomed to letting Him truly reveal somethings to me. The blinders came off and I was able to see Him in parts of the world that I thought was just simple in what they were.

He gave Romans 1: 20 another meaning for me, it says “ For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities-his eternal power and divine nature-have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse”. I understood, I was no longer excused for my sin and unrighteous ways for He was revealed to me.

Figuratively, I saw God plain as day and at that point it all made sense.

I was going through a season of isolation. I was extremely lonely but fulfilled in all ways. It was God, He needed me at this point in full surrender to expose me to the real me. He expose my heart, my mind, and my ways always keeping me in check. Installing new things in me I never knew existed.

I fell in love, completely in love. I became obsessed! Now I am seeking more daily, allowing Him to make me into the woman I am destined to be. The woman He needs me to be. A woman who is committed when I am broken, when I don’t know, when it gets hard, and when I beg Him to release me from the hold because it gets too hard. He is making me into a warrior, a complete servant of His kingdom, a Proverbs 31 woman, and I am committed to her and the process she must endure.

Sis, it gets hard almost tragic, but are you willing to remain so committed to God that you are willing to go through torture to get to your treasure?

May we all focus on God's ability to keep us sane. I pray that daily we are able to let go of what was and walk into what is now and no person, thing, or place can run us away from our destiny. I pray that as we a burdened with torture God gives us what we need in to one day soon reign in our treasure.  

Today mediate on Romans 1:20, Proverbs 31, and pray through your torture and allow God to reveal your treasure.

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The Divine Power

Hello My Beautiful Family!!

Missed another week. I know that's trash but due to good reasoning though. For you should know I will drop two blogs this week to make up. I don't want to waste anytime for I am excited about what God has done in my life and I want to encourage you in the Lord's divine power for I am already in tears. 

Let us pray.
Heavenly Father, we are so gracious and grateful for Your love and faithfulness. You are everything we need and more, Your love liberates us in all aspects of life which may be cherished until Your return. Lord, use us for the vessels we were called to be and shine light on all things of You so Your Kingdom will be glorified. May we all be reflections of  Your amazingness, to love, care, and serve just like you. For all things we do are in honor of You. Amen.

So honored to be able to speak on the Divine Power of God. I feel as Christians we speak on our Fathers abilities to be great, amazing, awesome, good, fantastic, and even dope but DIVINE is a word  we don't mediate on too often. It has become my favorite word to describe God and almost every time I end up in tears. 

Question, asking for a friend at what point do we (Christians) stop flat out ballin' crying on the goodness of Jesus because I...I mean my friend is tired of being a complete crybaby. BUT just pray for my friend! Fix it Jesus (😂) .

Here are three ways God revealed His divine power to me:

Though things are not perfect and I believe will never be perfect God has given me the ability to understand His level of strength and peace or His Divine positioning. God's divine positioning is just another way to say attitude, it's the position you stand in that can't be shifted or shaken due to your environment. His divine positioning keeps you from the destruction worldly hurt brings. God's divine positioning allowed me to be at the right time in the right environment to avoid all things that was not of Him. No matter who said what, actions that were done, and even in situations I couldn't handle God's presence was so thick I never had to stop to wonder where He was. One of my favorite things about God is that He does not hide from us. His presence is always known and consuming which I am absolutely grateful for.

While being divinely positioned, He was able to reveal to me His Divine order. I think as Christians we get caught up thinking that God will just completely reveal to us our entire life plan without actually considering that we are walking into our divine order as we speak. Being connected to God is one of the best things we can do as Christians, and really focus on God! As we focus on God, He allows things to just simply makes sense. The hurt that was once felt about "ole boy" just suddenly doesn't hurt like it use to, those girls that use to talk about you so loud are one day silenced, though their mouths are still moving, suddenly you just can't hear them anymore. Those family members that have so much to say about your career plan SUDDENLY don't have anything to say anymore because your divine order is in place and they can see you can't be dispositioned in your divine positioning. He allowed me to know that His divine order puts everything in order and I should fear nothing because of who He.

Lastly, while walking into His divine order. He allowed me to understand the meaning of His divine connections. You know those people in your life who you just click with? Those people who you happen to run into that are perfect for your business, family, and growth in ministry?, YES, those people you hang with that just suddenly makes sense. Vibes are great, conversation is always uplifting, and when we come together it's nothing but proof of what God can do when sinners clean up their act and become saints.

Know that God keeps His promise. I believe that standing in complete expectation to what He says is a clear indication of trust we have for Christ and gives us a divine power that we can only access. Isn't that powerful?

As Christians, we have a certain ability to access a resource others don't believe in. This resource allows us to be joyous in our darkness but know that all things come together for the good of those who trust in the Lord for the divine plan He has for our lives exceeds our little imagination. The question for you though sis is do you believe His divine plan on your life?

May we all focus on God's divineness more than ever. May we not be deceived by what we want but eager for everything divinely ours. May our prayers focus on not what we can get from God but what He wants from us.
Today mediate on Hebrews 12:1-3 & Pray more then ever!! 
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Who Run The World....WOG!!!!

Happy Wednesday Queens!!!!

As I sit on my bed, I had a slight thought that I am truly dope! 😂 I have to be so apologetic about it because I don't want anyone to think I am vain but it's just the confidence God has given me to be a woman I thought I could never be. In my previous blog, I think I hint on how God had given me a vision about myself when I was like 12 years old. I would go into details but that's for my book😏. Though, this vision was to set the tone for exactly where I am supposed to be I used it as an opportunity for my personal advancement. It didn't work out in my favor but I am still here becoming her. Better late than never, right?  

Lets us pray:

Heavenly Father, our Savior, our King. We love you more than anything. Father I ask that you utilize me, make my ways, ideas, heart more like yours. As I go forth on today allow me to reach some women that really needed to hear from You. Allow a certain freshness and understanding to take over hearts and allow them to know how they are supposed to be defined in You. We appreciate You and love hearing Your word. To God be the glory who gets all the honor and praise. Amen. 

Sisters, I am just going to have real talk today, forgive me kinda. So often we let people dim the light we have been given through the grace of God because of our inability to truly love who we are as women. Emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, we become inferior to other women and especially men because of our insecurities, battles with worth, and lack of trust in God. As we watch others and see them get their way, start their business or ministry, we attack our wonderful Father with "why's?". Why is that? do we not trust Him, do we not depend on Him, do we not love Him like we say we do? We become so affected by a lane that's not ours, when God says I have a bigger, better lane for you. I have a bigger following for you, I have more business minded people I need you to run into, and I need your pride check, ego hidden, and your vision focused on me before I do any shift in your life BUT IT'S COMING!!!!!!.....Am I talking to somebody?

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know thoughts I think towards you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope." THIS IS A PROMISE FROM THE LORD, HE SPOKE IT!!! Our God is not a liar and He does not do evil. HE CAN NOT LIE!!! Sis, do you trust Him and His ways? Do you believe the thoughts He has about you? Take God at His word. Believe His purpose on your life, have faith that He will produce, have hope in His undying ways, we serve that EXACT same God today that David served in the battle with Goliath. God wants us to have an unwavering faith. A faith and trust so rooted in Him, you can't be shifted by what people say about you or how the world views you because your purpose is dedicated to Him and all for the Kingdom.

You say; "But Shay, everyone is doing what God told me to do, now I am just lost and really don't think I should pursue it." SISTER, know that a field, area of career, space of ministry can not be saturated if God ordained you to do it. LET HIS WILL BE DONE!!! Luke 12:31 encourages us to seek that Kingdom above all else and He will give you everything you need. He is our provider, our Jehovah Jireh. He knows our needs and loves to provide for His people after His heart. Psalms 84: 11-12 says "For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly. O Lord of hosts, Blessed is the man who trusts in You!" TAKE GOD AT HIS WORD!!

Here are 6 ways you can put God first and be the Woman of God you are intended to be;

1. Read The Bible: Stay in the word. Reading the bible allows you to understand that what God says about you. He is a very particular God and particular about His people. The Bible is a really detailed guide through life and God speaks through it in many ways.

2. Stay PRAYED up!! Pray, Pray, Pray, PRAY!!!! Stay in constant prayer with God He wants to hear from Him. He loves hearing your voice and desires to hear your cries. Talk to Him. How do you have a relationship without communication?

3. Fast, eliminate some things in your life. God wants to show you only need Him. Fasting will gain discernment in hearing His voice. This also builds intimacy with God and increases faith.

4. Get Quiet and Worship, Praise, Mediate are ways to go deeper with God. Welcome His presence and just allow Him to dwell. Don't speak, don't ask for anything just sit and be quiet. Close your eyes and dedicate that time to Him with a focus on the Kingdom. Let Him speak to you.

5. Journal. Dedicate sometime to just sit and say "Hey Father/Dad", "Heavenly Father". Pour yourself on to Him and know He hears all (El Shama).

6. GET Convenant Sisters and make divine connections. This was the best step I have ever made! By just allowing other women of God to hold me accountable for who I am called to be. My sisters cover each other all the time and I am so grateful to God for placing powerful women in my life.

Hey! Woman of God, YOU RUN THE WORLD! Allow this to be the guide you use to head out into the world full force. Allow God to provide and guide, while you form into the amazing vessel you were called to be. Eliminate distractions, negativity, and get rid of things that are not conducive to your calling. You are a  piece of God's property and You are called deeper than any business or ministry started. Remember it takes only a few weeks for adorable puppies to be birthed but 2 years for the perfection of an  amazing exotic elephant to be admired into this world. You are an elephant Queen!!!


May you all be blessed!! I pray that God allows us to go deeper in Him. That we take Him at His word and we are not shaken or shifted by what is presented at this time. I pray that we understand it takes time for perfection to be made and though we our not perfect we are perfect because of who He is. Who Runs this??!....Yes Woman of God you do!!

Today meditate on Jeremiah 29:11, Luke 12:31, Psalms 84:11-12

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Just Figuring it Out

Hey. 😑 (I have an attitude... lol)

So Queens, I am literally on here every Wednesday promoting and encouraging y'all in the Lord. But can I complain today. Every week I make the cautious decision to get extremely quiet and sit at the feet of Christ, not just for myself but literally for all of you!! Though, I will NEVER EVER complain about helping people in their walk. It's just at times.....I simply don't feel like it! 

CATS OUT THE BAG!!!! 
It's something about reveal these cats I have in this imaginary bag that gives me life. "REVEAL THESE CATS Shay!!!" *swings royal sword*....this is me amping myself up to be honest with y'all. (😂😆😭) Hey, this is what I have come to. Just being completely real and honest with myself. I don't know about y'all but I use to lie sooo much too myself, like that time I was going through puberty and constantly called myself cute. When I should have been saying eventually I be cute, one day maybe.*pats 12 year old self on the head*. Though today with confidence, I can say she (I) has arrived!!! Yasssss *ghetto girl voice and hand claps*

Or what about that time, I use to say I loved drinking alcohol, had no explanation for  it was just what was expected from me, coming from the long line of alcohol abuse within my family. Owh, it was this other time when I thought I enjoyed smoking hookah but I HATED IT and my friends use to make me go EVERY WEEK, literally!! Like, this is one of the things that makes me feel sooooo stupid because what is the purpose of hookah? and why is it legal to sit in a room filled with a bunch of strangers and water smoke while smoking water? Things we will never know *ques twilight zone theme music* 
The thing is after a while I just stopped, so I just started going with zero expectation of smoking but all expectations to help pay...I know I am an amazing friend. Though, I don't get it (😹😹, this took myself out at water smoke) 

These are the things I now have to face up to and I'm okay with that because GOD!! *praise break* 
I guess y'all are wondering what do I actually have to complain about. LIFEEEEEEEE and the downs!! Makes you want to give up. This whole week I have been thinking that maybe, just maybe....it's not worth it. Honestly, I don't truly know what I mean when I say that I just said it. It's like I put so much into life at 25 years old is fruit being released from the seeds I have been planting? This is not about anyone else's journey or being somewhere I thought I would be at 25. It's just as simple as am I producing fruit in my life and for the people around me? Am I truly a reflection of Christ? and how can people tell I'm His when I walk into a room?

Lately, I have been so wrapped up in other things I haven't had the chance to consider the answer. I have been in a daze and placing people before myself. The other day, I exhausted myself because I wanted to make sure this individual was comfortable and had everything they needed. They were in a frenzy and overwhelmed, I played the "cool/collected" role and reassured them that everything was handled. While this person was frustrated and upset. I thanked God for the spirit of just "figuring it out".

Proverbs 14:29 says "He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, But he who is impulsive exalts folly". Even though I may have some things I don't have figured out. I am just overly thankful for the patience God has granted me. My ability for self control has been the gateway to my understanding to life. Getting upset, only causes you to be upset. Your focus on how mad you are stops your ability to take action or it delays your reaction and can cause a irrational response. STAY FOCUSED!!

Proverbs 14:33 says "Wisdom rests in the heart of him who has understanding, But what is in the heart of fools is made known." Patiences heightens understanding, which increases your wisdom. If I didn't have the spirit of patience nothing would be done right. If I didn't have understanding I would always need to know why I am doing something. If I didn't have wisdom I would question why all this makes sense.

Sis, I got so caught up in questioning my ability to produce fruit, I was missing the fruit God had been giving me to share. We must, especially myself, get out of the habit of thinking that our lives are ever going to be what we want rather than what God wants. In my mist of doubt and questioning God allowed me to minister to myself. I can get so overwhelmed when He speaks to me because it's so powerful but placing that on my heart to just be thankful for figuring it out blessed me. We have time to figure it out, God is not on a time stamp so however long it takes, it will take. 

Lets Us Pray:

Most High Heavenly Father, we thank You for the spirit of figuring it out. I pray that patience, understanding, and wisdom is install in all of Your children on today. I pray over increase of time and patience to go the course until You reveal. I pray that our eyes are focus on You, our feet are following You, and Your light shines bright in our dark journey. Allow no one to be distracted or discouraged Father and if so, You quickly intercede to release them from any hold. Father, we want to do all things for the Kingdom allow our frustrations to be casted at Your feet as we pursue all things with positivity. Let our response be yes before You even ask use to do anything. You get all the glory, honor, and praise. Let Your will be done! In Jesus name. Amen.

May you all be blessed!! I pray that God allows us all to increase our patience, wisdom, and understanding. As we seek the Kingdom and God, just allow things to be revealed about yourself. EMBRACE the change, gain, conviction, and heartbreak it's all in your ability to produce the fruit God is calling you to share.

Today meditate on Proverbs 14:29, 33. Write down your thoughts and pray. 
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Sis, You Deserve Better!!!

Another Beautiful Day Queens!!!

Here is a little about me! I am a very observant person. I pay close attention to detail and I don't talk much unless I have something to say. I am a complete goof ball but only if I know you will understand my sense of humor and if not the drawback is five times worse. Like I say, you either get all of me or none of me. I have obviously seen the way people treat you different as you grow and change, some treat you great, others...the people you never expect, treat you like trash. I think being mindful of these actions help us greatly with the people we surround ourselves with in our walks. This action is very critical. 

For me, I am a complete introvert. It's hard for me to make connections with people due to my inability to "attach" myself and be free with people I am just meeting. Which can be viewed, as "stand-off-ish" or "stuck up" but trust and assure I am too goofy to be either of them. Though, I am very picky with whom I give my energy to,  prefer to reserve, my time, intensity, and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity. (Quote from my instagram go follow me...@_lovelyyyybre) 

But I am far from stuck up! It's hard for me to break the barriers of vulnerability and emotions because those are things I never had to deal with in my household, it was more like don't show no emotion. How can that be thrown in your face if you have none? Maybe that's why it's hard for me to date. I need a powerful man, because my ability to not seem vulnerable to a man, is my ability to stand strong in Christ. I don't relay on what man can do for me, for so often it has left me broken & wandering. I have to ask,

💛Still Interested? Know that I will only be weak at the feet of the Lord and not because you say you are manly enough to hold me up but don't seek your strength in God. I am a woman of substance, not fear nor darkness....I have overcome in Christ Jesus. We all deserve relationships that reflect that of the one, yet the most important relationship we will ever have and that's with God!

Why accept anything less than the standard He has set for us? Sis, I am personally telling you, you deserve better. Not just in your romantic relationships but your relationships at home and your friends. You should never struggle with co-workers or even your neighbors, if you reflect Christ-like actions why can't your relationships do that as well? So often we find ourselves at the point of loneliness and just need somebody to be around. So we put up with any and everything to just have company. Oh, that's not you? Maybe you were at a point in your life where you needed somebody and they were "there" for you...but sis, did they serve their purpose yet? or you just holding on? Now it's time for them to be released from their duties. So, that's not you either? What happens when you are suppose to hold on to someone and due to pride and ego you release them from the role they are suppose to play in your life? So, I am hitting home?

See I am not here for conviction, that's God's expertise. I am here to set the tone of the environment that in order to be heart checked you have to be in tuned with the heart checker!! How can you serve and satisfy when you are too distracted by the people that suppose to keep you in check? How can you check and advise when you are connected to people that doesn't have your best interest? Oh! How can you live and learn when you are getting rid of the few people who actually cared about your spiritual growth and well being? HOW CAN YOU LIVE WITHOUT KNOWING WHAT GOD WANTS FROM AND FOR YOU??!!!

The bible says in Proverbs 13:20 "He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will be destroyed". We truly are the company we keep, when we hang out with people that isn't conducive with the way God wants us to live we destroy ourselves spiritually. In John 13:15 "Greater love has no one than this, than lay down one's life for his friends." For the people that you call friend, are they friends that you are willing to go into battle for? Will these "friends" go into battle for you? These are critical questions!! Are we laying down our lives for the right people? Are we giving the people the title friend when we should have left them as servants (read your bible). We can NEVER forget the infamous and my favorite, Proverbs 27:17 "As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friends". This one is so important because we to need to be sharpen and fueled daily!! The people we hang around need to be what we need to stay connected to the source and be fed in this life. It's hard daily and if they are not pouring into you then they are leaving you empty.  

How do I know? I have lived through it...I am still living through it! God has revealed and confirmed the relationships that I need to let go because of my inability to rise above my flesh and stay Christian around them. I don't drink anymore, I am not insecure enough to put other people down anymore, I am not a substance abuser, I don't have sex, I don't place myself in sexual environments, I don't enjoy profane language, hostile environments or situations, and these are things I don't seek after anymore. I had to sit back and allow God to move in my life. To be so isolated and undistracted to the point where I know God and know what is and isn't Him. I have sat with His word for days so that I am sure I am hearing from Him when I hear from Him. Sis, from experience I am not longer connected to the enemy and no longer influenced by things of this world. I can no longer say I didn't know. I AM A CHILD OF GOD! and I have ALL desires to act like it. Not pretend until no one is looking, I want my entire life to reflect that of Christ. He has also confirmed and revealed the relationships I should keep around, when I think I don't deserve them. They are constantly proving that I do deserve. I truly love Gods people. God loves His people and places things on the hearts of peopleto give and do for others and those are the people you need around!

All glory and honor goes to the divine relationships God has created for me and will create for me. I am in awe with anytime I ask for prayer, my sisters say I am covered and I know that it's true. I am mind blown when God places people in my life that will step away from everything that they are doing to make time just to pray. I am amazed when I get a text EVERYDAY from a girl I have NEVER met but because we connected, joked, and laughed we are really sisters because God is in the mist. I am overjoyed when I have relationships that were already established but are deepened in Christ so they are 100 times better then I could have ever imagined. I am overwhelmed when people see Christ all over you and just want to serve with you because they want front row seats when God starts to move and not to hate but to congratulate every step of the way and vice versa. I don't know why He does it but I am forever grateful!

Lets us pray:

Heavenly Father, I love You! Thank You for the opportunities You allow to tell my story and give insight on. Thank You for the shift You are taking us through to get everything You promised. Thank You for the relationships You have created for us to get to these places and the relationships You will maintain. Thank You for the relationships You will mend because they were never meant to fall apart. Thank You for giving us the hearts to let go and move on for You are so intentional in all Your ways. We trust You Father every step of the way. Give us the desire to be more like You, to love, to forgive, and see things just as You do. Thank You for Your heart and not hiding when we need You most. Thank You for all that You do for we are forever in debt to Your grace and mercy. Thank You for all You do, in Jesus name we pray. AMEN. 

May you all be blessed!! I pray that God leads hearts in all relationships. That we have the ability to discern what is and what isn't. I pray that we have the hearts to forgive all, hold on to those we are suppose to and to let go of those who are suppose to be let go of. May we all be guided by God every second, minute, and hour of everyday. I love y'all and thank God for everyone of you! Let's build the Kingdom to His liking with relationships that reflect who He is. 

Today meditate on Proverbs 27:17, John 15:13, Proverbs 13:20, pray over your relationships and pray with those people who you have relations (Godly Relations) with.
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#iDecided

If you know me, you would have looked at the title and thought that this post was about Big Sean's new album. That just maybe I have taken the time to listen to it (I will listen eventually 😩) and get the encouragement to be influenced but NOPE, God dropped this in my spirit last night. He told me to tell my story, one thing people don't understand is going to Christ is a decision. This decision is made personally and is understood, that we need Him more than we could ever truly understand. While also understanding dwelling in His presences is a commitment we make DAILY as me take the proper steps to be like Him!!!

Let us pray:

My amazing Heavenly Father, we love you so much. You are everything to us, all we are and all we have. We give our all to you. Father as we surrender ourselves to you at this very moment I pray that Your words shines out and people are touched by You and not what I have to say. I pray that You overshadow everything and Your glory is more understood than my testimony. Father I thank You for just being You. You are the source of all things and make our desire to treat you as such deepen. We love You more then anything that once had our attention, I ask that as we cast our distractions at Your feet You loose them from us and give us a continuous desire to flee from these things. Spirit of God fall fresh on us we need Your presence!! Fill our hearts with Your love daily. Father, we lift up your name. All who loves the Lord says. Amen!   

After that post last week about my grandmother, I was truly nervous about this one. How in the world could I follow backup with greatest after that woman ooze great, but I had to understand it isn't a competition. When God had placed #iDecided on my heart the carnal girl in me (not on surface, DEEP down in me...I really did give my life over 😏😆) told Him I didn't listen to Big Sean's album because I was fasting and didn't have time in the next two days or such. LISTEN!!!! God is really still working on me (😂), don't judge me judge yourself because I was really confused as well. How is God keeping my mind and gone send me into a battle where I'm taken back to my roots of being a "hustler" and "grinder". Side story: I am from the hood but I use to be a thug/ gangster girl in my head. Believe me though my mother CONSTANTLY reminded me I wasn't about that life. Reason why I am obsessed with my headphones she NEVER let me listen to rap out loud or the very ignorant levels I chose but that neither here or there (😂😂😅😆).

So I'm in a bit of pickle trying to understand what the Lord is talking about. He then reminded me of this weekend with my friends. 

February 27th was my birthday though my group of long distance sisters from college (The FAB 5) DECIDED to clear their schedules to fly in from Texas, drive in from Flint and Illinois, and step away from prior engagements to be with me, though they didn't have to. During our girl talk, God reminded me of the shift He had spoke about at the beginning of the year. He says "This is where it starts", I immediately started crying (I have never cried so much in my life until #iDecided to follow Christ😁) I had become so worried when God spoke about the shift because it felt like He was going to do it right away. Little did I know right away was already in the works. So often we get caught up thinking that God is shifting in the natural, we are too selfish to even consider the heavy duty work that is going on in the spiritual realm to protect you from that things that tries to convince you God isn't real or on your side.Though #iDecided to keep going and keep my faith because I take God at His word and trust Him more then anything. 

#iDecided is a reflection of the decisions we make as Christians. It becomes deeper then just confessing that "Jesus is Lord" or repenting for our sins, especially if we don't make the conscience decision to flee from them. I need spiritual fruit to be produce from me, I want to be an asset to His Kingdom, a true servant, instead of always taking without putting anything back. I want my journey to be a reflection of why so many seek Christ because my light is so bright. Psalms 119:105 says "Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path", this scriptures always reminds us that when we decide to follow Christ His light becomes our guiding force and it can't be dimmed unless you decide to let it burn out. 

Deciding to follow Christ doesn't start with a complete transformation over night. Once #iDecided to follow I prayed over a pure walk, pure heart, pure worship, especially after so many "play" church. I wasn't from a church going family so I didn't want to pretend that I had been there. I wanted the presence of God to dwell not because what I wore or what I said/how I said it but because of my worship, prayers, and how I treated His people. I want my purity for God to shine even on my worse days and through my hard time. I want people to understand that deciding to live a Christian life is knowing your Father and understanding His plans for you. Everyone is different and can't handle your battle. 

While mediating on #iDecided, God gave me Hebrews 12. I am reading over and over again. Sis, know that because you decided to follow Christ. God is going to take you through somethings but you shall not give up because its proof that He loves you. When #iDecided to follow Christ I lost everything, but I remembered where I had came from and that I could have really been in hell. God gave me that strength and peace I needed to understand that I had to go through because my walk/journey isn't about me! It's about getting people saved and understanding the fruits of labor when you walk in the purpose and destiny of God.

Know that God loves you despite any and everything you think He will deny you for. Today, #iDecided to continuously give myself away so that God can use me in every second, minute, hour of each day. I challenge you to do that same thing. Open your bible to know how God really feels about you, how He wants to use you, and the riches He gives when you allow Him to reign over your life.

May you all be blessed!! I pray that God leads hearts. That because #iDecided little ole me from the eastside of Detroit, no spiritual background, no spiritual fruit being sown into me as a child by my parents, just my love for God is enough at this very moment. That I am able to grow, teach, and encourage in the word to unbelievers. I pray that you reading this find boldness in yourself to decide to truly live for God, spread your testimonies, and become fearless in Christ so we will all be able to say HASHTAG iDecided!!! Decide to me made new.

Today mediate on Hebrews 12 (Entire), Psalms 119:105 pray over your process to deciding
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Maybe ISSA Healing?

🌻Every morning I wake up, my first thoughts are with you & God. 3 years later and I still try to make sense out of it. Maybe, just maybe if I listen a little harder or sleep a little deeper that I will be able to hear the cane metal click from your soft walks or the dragged out creaking the bathroom door makes as you delicately shut it. Maybe, just maybe if I lay still a little longer or close my eyes to mediate a little tighter I will be able to hear the slight clearing of your voice to get out a simple "Hello". That maybe if I had the strength I could get up to get you a glass of water and make you a quick breakfast to get me another 30 mins of shut eye. MAYBE.

🌻Maybe, just maybe. This could be another day, where my focus is on you & not myself. That you are clean, hair done, and dressed. That you are fed, filled with liquids, and have your meds. That you are comfortable, warm, and had rest. Maybe, today won't be too hard & you don't have to ask if I'm tired and insist that I take a nap so you can have your Shay back. MAYBE.

🌻Maybe, I could finish rushing my life to make sure you were apart of it. That, just maybe death would be so far and the memories could flow, just to hear you were proud and tell me stand strong. Maybe, if I zone out enough I could hear one of your "old" sayings and hear you hum your favorite hymns. MAYBE!

🌻Maybe, if I sit in the dark a little longer and close my eyes full of tears I would be able to see you "ow" and "aw" over every meal with a special wink for my sweet potato pies. That you insisted having after your dramatic saying "I'm so full, I could burst." Just MAYBE. If I seen you one more time I would be ok. If I could get some closure, ask for a last hug, and even question you about how you and grandpa feel in love. Maybe, I won't have to wait long because I know you are resting peacefully above.

(Thank You Jesus!🙏🏾)

Let us pray:

Father, I don't know how I will get through this but I ask for Your guidance. That You know my pain and how I cope, You know my heart and how I got through. I pray that today I am able to give someone strength and peace because that's exactly what You have given me. I pray that the unconditional love and light you have given me, oozes out of my pores and lands upon Your people. I pray that you come forth even more as El Mauz (God my strength), El Shama (God who hears), Jehovah Rapha (The Lord who heals), and Jehovah Shalom (the Lord of peace). My whole heart is surrendered to You for Your purpose, use me. Though this will hurt, use me. Though my eyes are full of tears and my heartaches, use me. There is nothing I want more but to be used for Your glory. Father, I love you more then anything and love your people just as You would. Thank You for this opportunity. May we all be at peace at the end of this read. You get all the glory. Amen 🙏🏾.

Talking to Heaven: 

I wanted to dedicate my blog to you, Mrs. Bessie. I want everything that I feel important to have light shined on it and you are the light itself. You are the foundation, creator, and force in itself. You didn't show love you are love. You didn't take no mess or played with it. You are elegance, class, and feminine a true definition of a woman. God fearing, motivational, and the best of spirits, You were unmatched when it came to caring for all. Nothing got past you and for that I dedicated a piece of my life to you. Thank you for being a grandmother. Thank you for being you and continuously showing love. 

In 2014, I lost my grandmother. I was devastated, young 22 year old that couldn't wrap her finger around losing someone close. Someone so influential and legendary, just gone with no true explanation than old age and a failing heart. Decisions had to be made, her body could no longer hold the pain she was feeling and she didn't deserve long suffering due to our selfish ability to just want her around. For long over 70 years, her and my grandfather built a foundation that celebrated love and family, though I am extremely positive that their was family drama it was never on display as an act of covering up but act of respect for the royalty of matriarch and patriarch that reflected off of them. 

I guess, this blog is a reflection of Gods glory to place a praying woman as the head of household. A woman that lost her husband 13 years before she passed and never felt the need to remarry but wore her wedding ring until it got too big and placed it on her necklace closer to her heart. A true Proverbs 31 woman, with a spirit of Mary from Bethany. I wanted to be just like her, I want to be just like her. That even on her death bed, she still worshipped Christ until her last breath. Though, she was a beautiful example of God's favor, I still didn't understand. It took years for me not to be angry and made it hard for me to look at her picture. People didn't understand the ability to hold on nor cared about the level my of hurt. Nobody wanted to talk about it. I had nobody, I had nobody....

I 

HAD

NOBODY😭🙈😔😞

Nobody let me cry on their shoulder, so I took matters into my own hands. I hated the world and I was in so much pain. Have you ever been truly heart broken? The kind of heartache that hurts so bad it feels like a heart attack. I spent weeks in darkness and no one noticed. I cried for weeks but no one cared. I was in so much pain, I knew 2014 was my last year here on Earth and I became at peace with that. The night I was ready to give up was the night I had an encounter with Christ (so much more to the story). The next day I woke up in newness, the air was fresh, I had no desire to drink, I had no pain, all I wanted to do was get dressed and enjoy my day. I was happy? How? I literally just wanted to die hours before. I looked in the mirror and I looked new, tears immediately erupted from me. How could this be? Who could this be? 

The Bible says in Psalms 34:18 "The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit". Did God really have so much use for me that my life was valuable enough to save? Was I like King David in Psalms 56:8 "Record my misery; list my tears on your scroll are they not in your record" ” Was God so aware of me that He even collected my tears? 

From that day forward, I had to understand God is involved and aware of our pain, our joys, our failures, and our accomplishments. I understood that He truly was El Roi (God who sees all), He was my connector and source for all of my needs.

Sis, here are 4 ways to overcome heartache:

1. Recognize the pain and understand it is OK to hurt. We all go through hurt but it's not about the pain you endure, it's about how knowledgeable you are about it and overcoming it.

2. Seek the Healer. Seek God as your healer! Just like you tell a doctor your symptoms, tell God how much you were wounded and need His healing touch. He will hear the cries of the broken. God the Father wants to reach down, take your hand, and walk you through your pain. It may take weeks. For many of us it will take years, perhaps even a lifetime to close the wounds of our hearts completely. God will spend as much time and as many years as necessary to help you through it. He wants to gently apply the daily ointment of His Holy Spirit to your heart until your heart is healed. I know this because He has done it with me. When I am down, He lifts me up in many different ways. He is there for me to cry on His shoulder, so to speak, and then sends His encouraging Spirit to get me back up and going again.

3. Reach out to others. My walk has been dedicated to others to not make them feel as I once felt, alone. I know that isolation hurt, to want so bad to have someone around to just listen but want so bad not to be a burden. It's OK to talk it out with someone, swap stories, hug, it's all needed and apart of the healing process. Holding your feelings in only become worse and builds up to a breaking point. 

4. Understand HEALING takes time!!! Sister, take as much time as you need. It's YOUR hurt, you have to deal with it, don't let anyone make you feel that your hurt isn't important. Ignore everyone's ability to make you feel like it's been days, weeks, or years and you are supposed to be over it. Don't allow anymore to control how you heal, it's your pain, as long as you can take it to God you are in the healing process and I am proud of you. Always remember Psalms 147:3 says "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Trust His Word!

So I close this out in complete dedication to My grandmother Bessie Elise Cobb Reese, Happy 100th Birthday my beautiful redhead Queen. May you continue to rest in peace and be my angel. May you continue to personally watch after me and enjoy Heaven with grandpa. May your legacy continue to reside in us as we live daily. May you always be an example for generations to come. May we live out your graciousness and be held to the womanly standards you have set. I love you to Heaven and back.

Today mediate on Psalms 34:15, Psalms 147:3 , Psalms 56:8 & pray over your healing
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