Dating The Right Way?

Hey, My Beautiful Family!!!

Lately I have been experiencing some interesting things when it comes to "dating" or "getting to know" someone. It's like if guys aren't intimidated to talk to me, they are making assumptions on the kind of woman I am and where my values lay, or they under underestimate my standards maybe because I have a sweet, welcoming face. I don't say that as a bad thing, I just think that if you don't have any teeth in your mouth your approach should be minimal or you should find a way to fill me out before going in for the kill, but that's either here or there!

Though, I don't judge the extent others have been blessed physically. I do judge how you take care of yourself because at some point we got to the point where teeth didn't matter and I have to say that this is a problem sir. I am probably one of the simplest people someone can date. I don't ask for much but for us to truly be best friends and for you to keep your word AT ALL TIMES. If you say you will love me forever, that's exactly what I expect. Though maybe that's a lack on my terms, because in reality I don't even know if that's enough. Maybe me asking for too little opens that door for so many things to come in, "the list" of a relationship is what keeps the relationship in check and as soon as one of those things are jeopardized its fair game to throw the towel in. I don't think like that and maybe my need for openness hinders the strictness guys need.

When did relationships become so complicated?
Before we even get a chance to say "Hello", we are a challenged and flooded with superficial appearances and societal goals. Everyone has an opinion on what we need in a mate and who we look good with, not knowing the daily struggle to simply be sweet to each other. Though, we hold it together for the sake of "the church". God allows us to have free will, so I ask does your free will focus on happiness, growth, and God or your attempt to make God happy? (email me if this confuses you). God doesn't need your approval to be happy nor does He need you to be looking over your shoulder with the hopes of making Him smile knowing you are miserable. Which opens a whole other line of sin that I can talk about in different post.

See me, I am HAPPILY single and ACTIVELY preparing for marriage, there is no rush but I can't help to think does my desire to get married overshadows my desire to be in a Godly relationship. We must understand that even the slightest approval/disapproval from our parents, friends, and even society takes us out of the will of God. Does your relationship glorify God or what your parents want for you? Our we truly taking the time to ask God what we need in a helpmeet? Do we even know our Godly purpose to even be asking for a purpose partner?

Family, stop letting people regulate with God has for you by putting their opinions before God. We must be extremely eager to seek His face and voice over that of others who may love us but didn't create us. We must be fearless when it comes to walking into things that are ordained for us. Today, I pray that we can be honest with ourselves that though they may physically meet the requirements do they match them spiritually. I pray that we are checking our God list twice not only for what they do in the church but what they can do for us personally. Our helpmeets does not sleep with our parents, friends, or family....What are you doing to secure your future?

Today ask God to simply reveal and mediate on what He wants!

Lets us Pray: Father God, we just want to thank you! Thank You for our helpmeets and thank you for allowing us to be helpmeets. Though at times society and the people around us affect the way we view things, thank You for guiding us back to where we need to be. Thank You for loving us enough to send us help even though we make things seem more difficult than they actually are, Thank you for the relationships that have and will end, grow, and even be mended because you see fit and not because it's in our hands. Lord we give all things back to You. Love you more than everything, I pray that a surrender happens so that nothing is affected when it comes to the things that You want form us. Amen.

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Who Run The World....WOG!!!!

Happy Wednesday Queens!!!!

As I sit on my bed, I had a slight thought that I am truly dope! 😂 I have to be so apologetic about it because I don't want anyone to think I am vain but it's just the confidence God has given me to be a woman I thought I could never be. In my previous blog, I think I hint on how God had given me a vision about myself when I was like 12 years old. I would go into details but that's for my book😏. Though, this vision was to set the tone for exactly where I am supposed to be I used it as an opportunity for my personal advancement. It didn't work out in my favor but I am still here becoming her. Better late than never, right?  

Lets us pray:

Heavenly Father, our Savior, our King. We love you more than anything. Father I ask that you utilize me, make my ways, ideas, heart more like yours. As I go forth on today allow me to reach some women that really needed to hear from You. Allow a certain freshness and understanding to take over hearts and allow them to know how they are supposed to be defined in You. We appreciate You and love hearing Your word. To God be the glory who gets all the honor and praise. Amen. 

Sisters, I am just going to have real talk today, forgive me kinda. So often we let people dim the light we have been given through the grace of God because of our inability to truly love who we are as women. Emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, we become inferior to other women and especially men because of our insecurities, battles with worth, and lack of trust in God. As we watch others and see them get their way, start their business or ministry, we attack our wonderful Father with "why's?". Why is that? do we not trust Him, do we not depend on Him, do we not love Him like we say we do? We become so affected by a lane that's not ours, when God says I have a bigger, better lane for you. I have a bigger following for you, I have more business minded people I need you to run into, and I need your pride check, ego hidden, and your vision focused on me before I do any shift in your life BUT IT'S COMING!!!!!!.....Am I talking to somebody?

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know thoughts I think towards you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope." THIS IS A PROMISE FROM THE LORD, HE SPOKE IT!!! Our God is not a liar and He does not do evil. HE CAN NOT LIE!!! Sis, do you trust Him and His ways? Do you believe the thoughts He has about you? Take God at His word. Believe His purpose on your life, have faith that He will produce, have hope in His undying ways, we serve that EXACT same God today that David served in the battle with Goliath. God wants us to have an unwavering faith. A faith and trust so rooted in Him, you can't be shifted by what people say about you or how the world views you because your purpose is dedicated to Him and all for the Kingdom.

You say; "But Shay, everyone is doing what God told me to do, now I am just lost and really don't think I should pursue it." SISTER, know that a field, area of career, space of ministry can not be saturated if God ordained you to do it. LET HIS WILL BE DONE!!! Luke 12:31 encourages us to seek that Kingdom above all else and He will give you everything you need. He is our provider, our Jehovah Jireh. He knows our needs and loves to provide for His people after His heart. Psalms 84: 11-12 says "For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly. O Lord of hosts, Blessed is the man who trusts in You!" TAKE GOD AT HIS WORD!!

Here are 6 ways you can put God first and be the Woman of God you are intended to be;

1. Read The Bible: Stay in the word. Reading the bible allows you to understand that what God says about you. He is a very particular God and particular about His people. The Bible is a really detailed guide through life and God speaks through it in many ways.

2. Stay PRAYED up!! Pray, Pray, Pray, PRAY!!!! Stay in constant prayer with God He wants to hear from Him. He loves hearing your voice and desires to hear your cries. Talk to Him. How do you have a relationship without communication?

3. Fast, eliminate some things in your life. God wants to show you only need Him. Fasting will gain discernment in hearing His voice. This also builds intimacy with God and increases faith.

4. Get Quiet and Worship, Praise, Mediate are ways to go deeper with God. Welcome His presence and just allow Him to dwell. Don't speak, don't ask for anything just sit and be quiet. Close your eyes and dedicate that time to Him with a focus on the Kingdom. Let Him speak to you.

5. Journal. Dedicate sometime to just sit and say "Hey Father/Dad", "Heavenly Father". Pour yourself on to Him and know He hears all (El Shama).

6. GET Convenant Sisters and make divine connections. This was the best step I have ever made! By just allowing other women of God to hold me accountable for who I am called to be. My sisters cover each other all the time and I am so grateful to God for placing powerful women in my life.

Hey! Woman of God, YOU RUN THE WORLD! Allow this to be the guide you use to head out into the world full force. Allow God to provide and guide, while you form into the amazing vessel you were called to be. Eliminate distractions, negativity, and get rid of things that are not conducive to your calling. You are a  piece of God's property and You are called deeper than any business or ministry started. Remember it takes only a few weeks for adorable puppies to be birthed but 2 years for the perfection of an  amazing exotic elephant to be admired into this world. You are an elephant Queen!!!


May you all be blessed!! I pray that God allows us to go deeper in Him. That we take Him at His word and we are not shaken or shifted by what is presented at this time. I pray that we understand it takes time for perfection to be made and though we our not perfect we are perfect because of who He is. Who Runs this??!....Yes Woman of God you do!!

Today meditate on Jeremiah 29:11, Luke 12:31, Psalms 84:11-12

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